In this busy world we live in, sometimes we (I’m speaking for some guys, including myself) miss signals that are right in front of us.I would be flattered to know someone is interested in me and had the forthright to initiate contact.However, if your definition of “pursue” is this: Most men want to be the “hunter.” It is in our blood to see something we desire and to go out and get it (Ok, conquer it … When pursued, the flattery that was felt earlier quickly changes to questions of: As a long-time single, my hope for a mate is in God’s hands. What I have found to be true in my life is that God’s plan and design never feels contrived or forced.
(This is probably the excuse many women.) Although you may think your circumstance is different, take the time to observe a person over time and in different situations. Along the same line, does a man in his early twenties have his priorities, focus, and career in order? However, at this stage, a man is just beginning to experience life, he’s starting to see what is in the world, and he’s finding out who he is and what he wants to do.
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Is the man pursuing righteousness and ready to be the spiritual leader in a relationship?
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Age alone is not a determining factor of the compatibility of two people.
The emotional, mental, and spiritual maturity of each individual is much more important.
Is he ready to sacrifice some of his freedom, time and desires in order to reciprocate in a relationship?
Will this relationship bring you both closer to God?